Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. — “The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog” (via verthandi)
I’d like to add that this a great book on the effects of abuse and trauma on the brain, especially in refuting the horrendous myth that abuse is something children can more easily recover from. Obviously, it’s an extemely upsetting and possibly triggering read, but I definitely recommend it.
When you shame yourself about your body’s weight or shape, you could possibly be shaming those around you. Love yourself and stop making each other feel like shit.
Ohhhh, I’m so glad THIS is the cure to my mental illness. Just LOVE myself. I hadn’t thought of that!
People are allowed to feel bad about themselves, and as awesome as “love yourself” might be in theory, it’s nearly impossible to just magically do in practice.
Yeah, I know. I think the 2nd sentence could have easily been left out. :(
However, I do wonder to what extent women are pressured to perform the love/hate (or neutral/hate, or hate/hate) relationship with our bodies in public space. You don’t see (straight ) men do it nearly that much, and I doubt it’s due to a lack of things to be insecure about (*cough*hair replacement*cough*penis enlargement*), yet for women it seems that there is a lot of pressure to express discontent with their bodies as a part of normal, everyday conversation as opposed to an environment focused on healing these issues.
I dunno. I’ve lately been thinking about the assumptions we make about oppressed bodies, particularly as they relate to public and private space.
MAN 1: God, I’m so fat.
MAN 2: Dude, that’s so gay.