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"Believing that you are unworthy of love and belonging or that who you are authentically is a sin or is wrong, is deadly." - It Got Better featuring Laverne Cox (x)

(Source: stewarter)

dynastylnoire:

my damn self

(Source: nataliedormier)

Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me. I am who I am, doing what I came to do, acting upon you like a drug or a chisel to remind you of your me-ness, as I discover you in myself.

- Audre Lorde, “Eye to Eye”

For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you.”…The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation

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Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. — “The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog” (via verthandi)

I’d like to add that this a great book on the effects of abuse and trauma on the brain, especially in refuting the horrendous myth that abuse is something children can more easily recover from.  Obviously, it’s an extemely upsetting and possibly triggering read, but I definitely recommend it.

(via disabledtalk)

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redefiningbodyimage:

Yeah, I’ll say it - this universal call to action for women of the world to “love themselves” is overrated.
Strive for self contentment, be kind to yourself, be critical of media, remain vigilant in seeking empowerment and positivity when you can, form a relationship with your body, live well by your own standards, and by all means - love yourself, if that is within your grasp.
But if you can not find self love, for whatever reason and however long, know that you are not part of the problem. 
You have been affected.
Unlearning the hate is hard work, but once we learn how to dismantle the inner-workings of a society and culture that permeates and surrounds our very existence, we can stand a chance of knocking it down.
In the meantime, don’t force it - stop blaming yourself for not “loving your body” enough.
You can not possibly be at fault, when the oppressive culture we live in is the main offender.

redefiningbodyimage:

Yeah, I’ll say it - this universal call to action for women of the world to “love themselves” is overrated.

Strive for self contentment, be kind to yourself, be critical of media, remain vigilant in seeking empowerment and positivity when you can, form a relationship with your body, live well by your own standards, and by all means - love yourself, if that is within your grasp.

But if you can not find self love, for whatever reason and however long, know that you are not part of the problem. 

You have been affected.

Unlearning the hate is hard work, but once we learn how to dismantle the inner-workings of a society and culture that permeates and surrounds our very existence, we can stand a chance of knocking it down.

In the meantime, don’t force it - stop blaming yourself for not “loving your body” enough.

You can not possibly be at fault, when the oppressive culture we live in is the main offender.

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Oct 3

Women, body issues, and public space

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

chasingidentity:

When you shame yourself about your body’s weight or shape, you could possibly be shaming those around you. Love yourself and stop making each other feel like shit.

Ohhhh, I’m so glad THIS is the cure to my mental illness. Just LOVE myself. I hadn’t thought of that!

People are allowed to feel bad about themselves, and as awesome as “love yourself” might be in theory, it’s nearly impossible to just magically do in practice.

Yeah, I know. I think the 2nd sentence could have easily been left out. :(

However, I do wonder to what extent women are pressured to perform the love/hate (or neutral/hate, or hate/hate) relationship with our bodies in public space. You don’t see (straight [1]) men do it nearly that much, and I doubt it’s due to a lack of things to be insecure about (*cough*hair replacement*cough*penis enlargement*), yet for women it seems that there is a lot of pressure to express discontent with their bodies as a part of normal, everyday conversation as opposed to an environment focused on healing these issues.

I dunno. I’ve lately been thinking about the assumptions we make about oppressed bodies, particularly as they relate to public and private space.

[1]For example:

MAN 1: God, I’m so fat.

MAN 2: Dude, that’s so gay.

Oct 3

Public Service Announcement:

chasingidentity:

When you shame yourself about your body’s weight or shape, you could possibly be shaming those around you. Love youself and stop making each other feel like shit.

We will find other ways (create our own ways) and talk liberation and access and interdependency with our comrades. We will weave need into our relationships like golden, shimmering glimmers of hope—opportunities to build deeper, more whole and practice what our world could look like. We will practice what loving each other could look like every day. Courageously. And we will help each other to do it, in the face of seductive ableism; in the face of isolation as queer people of color, again; in the face of isolation from political community and movements, again. We will help each other love each other and, in doing so, love ourselves.

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Mia Mingus,

Wherever You Are Is Where I Want To Be: Crip Solidarity

(via tgstonebutch)

Aug 9

…I am entering my soul into a struggle that will most certainly transform the experience of all the peoples of the earth, as no other movement can, in fact hope to claim: because the movement into self-love, self-respect, and self-determination is the movement now galvanizing the true, the unarguable majority of human beings everywhere. This movement explicitly demands the testing of the viability of a moral idea: that the health, the legitimacy of any status quo, any governing force, must be measured according to the experiences of those who are, comparatively, powerless.

- June Jordan (via restoried)