Women, body issues, and public space
When you shame yourself about your body’s weight or shape, you could possibly be shaming those around you. Love yourself and stop making each other feel like shit.
Ohhhh, I’m so glad THIS is the cure to my mental illness. Just LOVE myself. I hadn’t thought of that!
People are allowed to feel bad about themselves, and as awesome as “love yourself” might be in theory, it’s nearly impossible to just magically do in practice.
Yeah, I know. I think the 2nd sentence could have easily been left out. :(
However, I do wonder to what extent women are pressured to perform the love/hate (or neutral/hate, or hate/hate) relationship with our bodies in public space. You don’t see (straight ) men do it nearly that much, and I doubt it’s due to a lack of things to be insecure about (*cough*hair replacement*cough*penis enlargement*), yet for women it seems that there is a lot of pressure to express discontent with their bodies as a part of normal, everyday conversation as opposed to an environment focused on healing these issues.
I dunno. I’ve lately been thinking about the assumptions we make about oppressed bodies, particularly as they relate to public and private space.
MAN 1: God, I’m so fat.
MAN 2: Dude, that’s so gay.
"We will find other ways (create our own ways) and talk liberation and access and interdependency with our comrades. We will weave need into our relationships like golden, shimmering glimmers of hope—opportunities to build deeper, more whole and practice what our world could look like. We will practice what loving each other could look like every day. Courageously. And we will help each other to do it, in the face of seductive ableism; in the face of isolation as queer people of color, again; in the face of isolation from political community and movements, again. We will help each other love each other and, in doing so, love ourselves."
"…I am entering my soul into a struggle that will most certainly transform the experience of all the peoples of the earth, as no other movement can, in fact hope to claim: because the movement into self-love, self-respect, and self-determination is the movement now galvanizing the true, the unarguable majority of human beings everywhere. This movement explicitly demands the testing of the viability of a moral idea: that the health, the legitimacy of any status quo, any governing force, must be measured according to the experiences of those who are, comparatively, powerless."